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Wednesday, April 28, 2010

Dating Mr. Wrong?

"Is is okay for me to date someone while they're still legally married but in the process of a divorce? He goes to church with me and is really a nice guy. I can't help but feel that I'm doing something wrong. Can you help?"
I informed this individual that despite the current paperwork that has been filed for divorce, he is still married to his former wife and, in a spiritual sense, treading on dangerous ground. It has been my experience that the "world system" states that it is okay to date, have sex with, or become intimately involved with someone who is separated and in the process of a divorce. Spiritually speaking, this is an adulterous relationship and the individuals involved are planting seeds of adultery that they will harvest if the matter is not corrected. Looking at this in a deeper sense, the character of the individual is highlighted, and the fact that he is willing to get intimately involved with you while still married to someone else makes me question his level of integrity and commitment. Despite the fact that he "goes to church" with you, I would examine his personal relationship with God. If this relationship was one of total commitment to God, he would realize that his faithfulness is not first and foremost to his soon-to-be Ex-Wife, his commitment is to God who is clear in his word concerning adultery. Being Sold-Out to God first would mean that he would wait until the Divorce is Final, then pursue other relationships just to make sure his hands are clean, and his heart is pure in the situation. Regardless of the grounds of the Divorce, keep in mind: If he is willing to cheat "with" you, he is liable to cheat "on" you. As long as he is still married....You get my point.
Thought for the week: 'A woman's heart should be so hidden in Christ that a man should have to seek Him first to find her.'~Anonymous

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