Tuesday, April 20, 2010
I received a call from one of my clients wanting to know what to do with her partner who just up and decided to leave. As I heard the longing in her voice, I told her to take pause and shared the following experience with her. "I know that you want him back, but take a moment to really think about what you would be getting if he came back to you today. Would what you get in return be what you really want, or what you have been settling for over the past few months?" After pondering the questions, she was able to see that if she gave in just for the sake of having him come back home, she would be equally as unhappy as she was before he left. She took the recommendations from the previous post to just take a step back and evaluate the situation for what it really is. After discovering that her partner was making all withdrawals and no deposits from her love bank, she decided to take the time to allow the love of God to replenish her so that she could move on in power to make a decision about the relationship from a place of empowerment, not desperation. If you are in a similar situation, don't feel like you have to make a decision to press the "STOP" button and terminate the relationship without thinking things through. Simply press "PAUSE" to gather your thoughts and emotions. During that quiet time, you will have the tools you need to receive the direction you need to decide whether or not to change the situation all together (STOP), or to pick up where you left off (RESUME PLAY).